Why Aren't Marriages Lasting Nowadays?

The topic and cases of divorce is very rampant and being taken as a random or normal thing. You know that right?  This generation really take marriage as a game you can get in and suddenly out of the blues just exit off.  In the olden days “Marriage” is being treated as a scared thing with maximum respect to the core. One thing we should understand is that marriage is based on the word “forever”. Y’all always pray to get to stage to be regarded as MR/Mrs or rather daddy/mummy but we fail or rather seems so blind to understand and love the process we gonna experience and go through.

The basic rule of marriage is “Understanding” it not all about I wanna be a parent or be regarded as Mr/Mrs. Understanding is the foundational key of keeping marriage in check and well preserved. we should understand the moment there have been an agreement between two person exchanging rings and saying yes to each other is more of like an eternal bondage or an unbreakable promise that must be kept to the end.  Keeping up the vitality of marriage is an easy task on the outside but it really take a lot of understanding like I said before it the foundational core powering “Marriage”.

Now moving to the main deal which is “Why marriage not lasting nowadays? There is a saying in the bible that said “My people fail because they lack Understanding”.

Note the keyword: “Understanding”.

Humans tends to have different attitude and personality, as a married woman/man, parents you should understand the fact that my partner might develop mood swings  out of the blues, his/her friends might try to mislead them, family problems might arise, financial, emotional or environmental issues might arise. All these factors must be noted that they might come up at any time but understanding how your partner reacts to this situations or issues will surely give you an edge on how to tackle the problems that might try to separate you guys.

The main reason why divorce are so rampant is because we fail to “ Understand” the flaws of our partners, we fail to accept them for who they are, most times we see this flaws we try to change them in an aggressive without first considering the Second key factor “Patience”.

“The patient dog eat the fattest bone” this saying doesn’t mean the dog is too lazy to get the bone or too weak to fight for the bone but the dog was actually waiting patiently for the right time to strike. We should understand that “change” is a process. There will always be cases of rise and falls but the process must and will still flow on and it shouldn’t be forced on someone. The process of achieving your goal when it comes to applying the law of change, three requirement must be met of which are:

Enjoying the process: we must learn to enjoy the process and pain that comes from changes if not then the goal will just be an eternal wish or dream that can’t be  achieved, just only kept for admiration of it beauty and glories.

 Loving the process: this involves loving the pain while channeling them to strike at your weakness turning them into strength.

 Appreciate the process: you must always be grateful for the mentorship and also the process you are going through.

When applying the law of changes on someone or your partner this factors must be put into consideration. Do your partner enjoy, love and appreciate the process? If yes continue, if No then put up another strategy to convince them. They might develop reluctances towards it but with “the application of understanding” you already note down their reaction to the “Changes” you are introducing to them, then you already know how to make them do your bidding.

Nobody is perfect, everyone human is always with a flaw or a naughty attitude but changing them for better, they will always love and appreciate you for that when the glory of all the process shows up.