Paradox of Life #1
When we were children we often would create a total scene in the house just for attention. When we grow up and hit puberty we often see others posting sad memes and quotes over social media we start thinking depression is some new trend , you start faking depression. When we come to college we find out life is actually hard and there are a lot of difficulties that we must not adress else someone can take advantage of our weakness, we start faking happiness. You see how transition from seeking attention to avoiding it we have come a long way. Life after this is way more dark. But the main question is why adulting so challenging these days?
I can't give a direct answer to this question but I have three analogies
We Mostly Grew Up Well Pampered
When As Humans Don't Like To Get Out Of Our Comfort Zones. Since childhood all our needs were often fulfilled by our parents, So when people want us to deal with our own problems we freak out.
Bad Parenting
Now hear me out, I don't directly blame our parents but maybe our grandparents. Our grandparents really faced a hard time getting a stable livelihood , so since childhood our parents learned the reality of life the hard way. So Once We Become Independent And Actually Face Problems Coping Up With The System. Our parents want to push our potential and be on our own. Like now you can't confess your parents that you don't have friends because you are introvert. These problems are not considered as problems after a certain age. This idea is right, I say the timing is not. Remember the "fake depression" Phase? I think that is the time parents should actually break free of the protective shield over our heads. So that by the time they actually need to focus on the important things in life they have already learned the life lessons.
Social Media Childhood
Well This One Is Debatable. The Concern Is Not about just solving the day to day life problems but to be able to accept the way life surrounds. With growing phase a individual is expected to deal with more complex difficulties. If since childhood we were okay with these changes why have a fuss now? One of the reasons maybe social media. So social media feeds you with the sugarcoated lifestyle of celebrities, models and influencers. The main concern starts when young audience starts idolizing such lifestyles without realising that they were one in a thousand lucky people to have borned in a well off family. But remember the "attention seeking" phase? We are often stubborn with something we have idolised since our childhood. Once we face the bottom rock and realise that in reality that lifestyle is just a illusion , we feel betrayed and anything that doesn't resemble our imagination starts bothering us.
Conclusion
Remember Watching Movies Like Student Of The Year And yaariyaan? How Many Of You Reading This Can Relate To Such A College Life. College Life Is Not Just About The Lavish Things Like Partying And Fighting. It Also Consists Of Boring Lectures And Loads Of Assignments. So Next Time You Ask Why Can't I Have SOTY College Life ,Also Ask yourself Why I Am Not Siddharth Malhotra Or Varun Dhawan.
-Soham Dey