How to Have a Perfect Relationship

Do you have a special someone? Is there someone in your life that has a special value in your eyes like no other? What would you do to cultivate a functional relationship with that person, and more importantly, how would you go about doing that?

Like basically every person in the world, we have all caught feelings for someone we love greatly, whether the sexual orientation, we still love whom we love. I don’t know about any of you, but when I see that special someone, I envision the perfect conversation that would inaugurate a very deep and special connection that we would eventually share.

Although, I freeze up when it is time to make those expectations become realities, and sometimes you do as well. Why is that? Well, it is a simple human thing to do. I may not be a doctor or psychologist, but I am sure my own theories could come into play here. We simply drift away and decide not to take a chance; because we are so worried that with one accidental slip up, it would be over for us.

I used to envision in my mind the perfect conversation that I could ever have with anyone. My confidence was at a very low point as if it was being held by a thread. If I would accidentally fumble on words, or not say the right thing when I “envisioned” doing so, I would feel more demoralized than ever.

I did eventually learn that it was a natural human thing to make mistakes, and not everyone can be a perfect conversationalist. That is when it hit me.

When I learned that no one is the best conversationalist, I thought of the girl that I liked, and thought if she was the same. She could not have been, and after this new information came to light, no one is. The way my confidence skyrocketed after hearing that was a feeling unlike any other, and I knew I would only prosper from there.

Just because she potentially was not good at conversation, does not mean that she isn’t a conversationalist in general… That is when I learned that I needed to establish a foundation for a relationship, something that we both like, and from there we could become more intimate.

My new strategy was this, I would approach the girl, just speak to hear about something that I thought she would potentially like, and be successful. It was risky, but it was what I got at the time.

To my surprise, it worked like a charm, and we managed to maintain a very steady friendship in which we are close to each other. Every time a new conversation starts up, we find it easy to communicate about pretty much anything because we both know enough about each other to feel enabled to talk about anything.

In summary, if you are looking to talk to someone you like, do this. First, you need to understand that you are not alone on this journey that you will pursue. There are people that are worse conversationalists but still manage to pull through and try. And second, when you finally gather the confidence to start a conversation, find something that you believe she would be interested in, whether it is hair, makeup, or even clothing. You want to make it about them so that they feel special and will feel enabled to continue the conversation, and from there on, it’s nothing but fun moments that you will spend together.