We all agree the world is advancing on a daily basis but the damages that affects human relationship is growing on a large scale, to the extent relationship is now treated as a means of getting money and satisfying s*xual urge. The will to sacrifice and maintain loyalty is now treated as a commodity, being in a relationship nowadays calls for the guy to be able to provide money while the girl have to always spread her legs. There are so many factors that is the root of this problems but I will only focus on few of them.
Trust Issues/Insecurity: Imagine being in a relationship with a guy or girl, handsome or beautiful than you. Normally you find them attractive always but on the other hand you can’t just stop thinking about the fact someone better than you can rush up and snatch them away from you. Inferiority then sets in due to the fact you want to hold them down to yourself, then you start by pleasing them and not be able to refute what they say or want. this solution of yours keeps on growing to become a future big slap to your face, because this your partner you are trying to please so as to stay with you start feeling you are low to him/her or probably not compatible with their standards, then they deliver a big blow to your face by dumping you eventually.
Lack of loyalty/Honesty: Human are prone to dominate but only on inferior being, you know when a hunter wants to hunt a lion he must have a clean single shot on it but when his bullet fails to bring the beast down he will surely pay with his life. When your partner gets to know you can detect his/her lies, they will start backing off from you or rather see you as a threat also painting you red, so they can enjoy the lime light of being the saint in their story.
I once had a similar experience with my ex-gf, she is the type that usually get attention from guys around, and it seems to be hard for guys to resist her. There was one day I caught her with a guy walking together while holding hands, I was like Yo!!! That my girl, what she doing with that guy, who is he? I decided to watch the whole scene till the guy left then I walked up to question her who the guy is?.
Then she was starts with her usual anthem like; babe that my bestie, babe he is just a friend, babe he is my mentor. This whole story plays on till when I finally have the hold on her that she is cheating. I also got angry and started dating one of my classmate she got wind of it and started crying, that day I felt so much pity for her but the truth of the whole issue is that the tears she shed that day was all a show just to push me away.
Lack of Communication: Guys you should note that before you were running after this chick to become your girl. Now she is, but you don’t have time to talk to her. I understand you might have your business to tend to, family to be with and friends to click with. All this tends to take your time but try to always create time to be with your girl.
I had an experience which lead to a particular issue of even losing my female bestie. She is in a type of relationship where her boyfriend hardly have time for her so most times am always with her. She usually send me money, food and other things. I suddenly noticed she is complaining about her boyfriend sometimes giving her boyfriend excuse just to be with me. I noticed if this continues the relationship will break also the guy is gonna hate me for that, apart I can’t stand my girl having a male bestie even a female ones.
The thing is I just see this this bestie of a thing as a “Manipulation”. Don’t bother to argue! I will explain.
You know this people you call your bestie, you share secret and almost everything with each other, they understand your weakness, you trust them wholeheartedly and that how manipulation sets in. You only listen to 99% of what they tell you, some are even controlled by them.
The whole thing here is that sometimes we feel we are the problem but I will advise you to always check yourself, note your mistakes, take steps to correct them but if the problem still persist you should leave.